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Dr. Wollman (geriatrician affiliated with rehab building) has sent Mother back to the hospital, where they can give her fluids and do some more tests. Dr. Sheiman (primary doc) will check in on her, and call me afterwards. (His speculation is that it might be the stomach bug he's seeing a lot of in the metro area.) I asked him to let me know if he thought it was grave enough for me to come down.

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[new-man.livejournal.com]

I'm sure it's nothing more than a stomach bug, but you should do whatever makes you comfortable, just in case. Keep in touch with the doctors, and see what you feel like tomorrow or the next day. If you go down and it's not serious, you'll have shown your mother (once again) how much you love and support her. If you go down and it is serious, you'll be glad you did.

[jenwrites.livejournal.com]

*keeping my fingers crossed*

[patsmor.livejournal.com]

I agree with new_man. Do what you need to do for your and her comfort.

My other question (because it's not clear in my head how old or ill your mother has been) is whether you need to be considering how you feel about her dying. We briefly touched on it, I think, the other day when we were discussing organ donors -- in the middle of an illness is generally not the right time to bring it up. "What, am I dying and no one told me????" Right.

However, if she is talking about "waiting," it might be that she wants a clue about how you feel. In one of the pastoral care classes I took, we talked about how family needs to work with patients. If she's feeling like she's just waiting to go, she many need to know that you give her permission -- that you love her, and will miss her, but that if it's time, you will not try to hold her there.

I still don't know what to do about the organ donor thing. I looked through all my materials, and haven't found a good answer. Sometimes it may be that if she goes on life support, you may need to make the decision.

This is a horrible entry to write, I think, in the middle of your worry. I'm sorry.

[staceyspins.livejournal.com]

I hope it's a bug. Keeping your mom in my thoughts.

[lucianus.livejournal.com]

Here's hoping its only a bug but please know that you and she are in my thoughts and prayers. If I was in your position I would plan to go down there this weekend.