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Dr. Wollman (geriatrician affiliated with rehab building) has sent Mother back to the hospital, where they can give her fluids and do some more tests. Dr. Sheiman (primary doc) will check in on her, and call me afterwards. (His speculation is that it might be the stomach bug he's seeing a lot of in the metro area.) I asked him to let me know if he thought it was grave enough for me to come down.

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[patsmor.livejournal.com]

I'm very glad you feel good about her doctors. That's really, really important.

I think people aren't thinking you are silly, but they do want to comfort you. Recently a friend came to see me after her father died, and finally she said that it was terribly frightening to only be 45 years old and not to have any parents any more. She didn't want to be the oldest generation. I think people want us not to talk about it because we all feel so achingly lost when our parents are gone, yet just as you feel, we don't want them to suffer or be only partially able to get out and live.

The best gift my mother ever gave me was having all her funeral arranged for and planned before she died. The only thing we missed was setting up the pot-luck visitation afterward. My dad was just completely blown away -- I think he never really believed she was going to die -- and so as eldest daughter I got to take care of everything. Mom took care of me that last time by having all those arrangements made.

You should tell your mother that it comforts you to know that she and Pastor Brian have talked about what she wants, because you know it gives both of you peace of mind, even if it's another 10 years before that funeral takes place.

Let your friends there love you and take care of you. That's really important for you.

[msmemory.livejournal.com]

I think people aren't thinking you are silly, but they do want to comfort you.

This one probably needs to get written on a post-it and stuck to my monitor, just to remind me.